serious; about online trans communities 

yknow, DIY HRT is not ideal but i do wish there wasn't such a culture of shaming around it in so many trans spaces

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re serious; about online trans communities 

@allie yeah i really agree
i've mostly seen it happen in trans spaces on reddit and thankfully only a few times on fedi but it's just so messed up

like, I've been doing diy hrt for quite a while and it has made me feel so much better on average... yeah, it sucks that there's so much gatekeeping and lots of medical "professionals" don't even know what they're doing, so why would one gatekeep it even more??

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress yeah. it seriously saved me.
and yeah! our goal should be to smash the gates in anyway we can, not make 50% of the gatekeepers trans people

re serious; about online trans communities 

@allie of course it's possible to do it wrong but doesn't that apply to just about every single kind of medication?
it just feels like the privileged kind of trans people who got their hrt without many obstacles thinking that everyone is able to do it like that too

i've seen people get literally death threats from other trans people just because they're doing diy hrt and it's honestly so wrong

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress also, it's significantly easier to do it wrong if all the information has been driven out by people who want us to follow standards that were not made for or by us

re serious; about online trans communities 

@allie yeah exactly
if anything, it should only be more accessible and not less

re serious; about online trans communities 

@allie @AgathaSorceress and even with gatekeepers and doctors, when there is no information available, you won't even know that your doctor says bullshit

re serious; about online trans communities 

@allie hearing stuff like
"oh you don't want to go through 2 years of real life experience in a transphobic country and go through tons of legal gatekeeping? just go to planned parenthood lol"
always makes me so upset

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress middle class trans americans stop thinking your experience is universal challenge

re serious; about online trans communities 

@allie @AgathaSorceress are these the ones who are constantly horny and eating pickles?

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress i'm like... very paranoid about medical stuff so i hyperfocus-read papers for like three weeks before trying to get hormones from planned parenthood and tbh what they recommended was like 40y out of date from contemporary understandings of the best approach to treatment. i am privileged, i'm on my 3rd endo now and he's relatively reasonable, but i still have to do an independent literature review every time i want to adjust my medication

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress point being that the state of professional competence in endocrinology wrt trans issues, even among people who supposedly are appropriately trained in it or specialize in it, is really fucking bad. there's a lot of damage one could do w/ DIY if approached improperly and even the worst-case professional scenarios tend to be *ineffectual* as opposed to harmful but that's bad enough for something so fundamental

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress so like, i tend to avoid recommending that people DIY just because I don't trust myself to help them do so responsibly, but it's not like the state of the field is so far beyond what people can learn on their own time that it's impossible to do so effectively. tbh the best medical assistance most people can hope for is someone who will just prevent them from seriously fucking up in some edge-case way, it's basically just DIY with help

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress but yeah hrt good and the degree to which it helps far outweighs the relatively minor risks of like... any reasonable approach that you'd get from even cursory review of the literature

doctors, re: serious, about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress @allie Also, surprise, official endocrinologists can do it wrong as well!

And sometimes they might just randomly without any reason deny someone the HRT one officially got before

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress @allie my only real obstacle was moving 5Mm away and saying I'd been self medding for half a year after my first therapist couldn't do shit, prolly having been her second or third trans patient at most. small town conservative america yay..

re serious; about online trans communities 

@AgathaSorceress @allie gosh, it took me a year and a half to find a competent doctor

because somehow "i shot past puberty and went right into menopause" or, "i wet the bed from sweat every night" was somehow really confusing to two doctors, one of whom has a Prof title and teaches Trans shit at the University

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