Someone I know, a cisgender woman, has recently announced she is pregnant with a girl. Her friends are doing a baby shower with, "It's a girl!" banners everywhere.

As I was looking at all of this and wishing her well, it hit me like a ton of bricks: this is for her.

The fetus does not understand cultural gender nuances, or how to be a girl. This is all for the parent. It is to make the parent and society feel good.

This is all for cisgender people to feel good about themselves.


Something else just hit me: imagine if we had, "It's a heterosexual!" baby showers.

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Eldritch Café

Une instance se voulant accueillante pour les personnes queers, féministes et anarchistes ainsi que pour leurs sympathisant·e·s. Nous sommes principalement francophones, mais vous êtes les bienvenu·e·s quelle que soit votre langue.

A welcoming instance for queer, feminist and anarchist people as well as their sympathizers. We are mainly French-speaking people, but you are welcome whatever your language might be.