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@Sheinicorn Gifted & Talented classes genuinely fucked up a lot of kids’ lives

@Sheinicorn I needed this rn for so many reasons that have been preventing me from taking care of myself, so thank you.

@Sheinicorn it took me years to realize this and I still need constant reminders.

The pressure to not "squander your potential" and be that amazing person everyone expects you to be becomes a part of your very foundation that reflects in everything you do.

@Sheinicorn Going to a cafe is better than sitting alone at home.

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bananonbinary: one of the hardest things to learn as a depressed former Gifted Kid(TM) is that half-assed is better than nothing. tkae the 50%, 40%, even 20% job. scrubbing your face is better than not taking a shower at all. picking up your clothes is better than never cleaning. nibbling on some bread is better than starving.


redheadhatchet: One of my college professors used to say "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." I didn't understand that for years because I didn't do anything poorly, I couldn't do anything poorly, I had to Do Everything Perfectly.

But brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing them at all when that 2 minutes seems exhausting. Doing ten minutes of yoga is better than 10 minutes of sitting when 30 minutes of cardio sounds impossible... (2/?)

... Changing my clothes is good when a whole shower is impossible. Standing on the porch for a few minutes is worth it after being the house for three straight days because I don't have the energy to go anywhere.

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly... because doing it poorly is better than not doing it. (3/3)

@Sheinicorn this is what i needed to hear before my breakup ;-;


A common example of this is duct tape. If you need something to be less broken but you can't fix it all the way: Tape that shit up.

@Sheinicorn This prevented me from achieving so much.

@Sheinicorn And at the same time, made me so proud of everything I've made. Kind of an addiction.

@Sheinicorn No one ever used the term "gifted" about me as such, but as my parents said when I was much older, "We knew that you were smart."

There was also the rather sucky moment when my dad said it was no longer impressive that I was good with technology at my age.

No one ever set sky high expectations for me. I set them for myself. Being bullied and ostracised by my "classmates", seeing myself as "the smart one" helped me maintain some degree of self-esteem.

@Sheinicorn I think it would've helped me to some degree if I had got that label, because then I would've understood what was "wrong" with me. Why I was so different, why I didn't share the interests of my peers, why I was so fragile.

@Sheinicorn I'll admit that, even if I do feel less and less alienated from other people with age, there is still a distance there. There was one time where I felt that I fit in. It was a meeting of some very bright people that a friend of mine who had started a business had arranged. It was very stimulating, because these people were saying things that hadn't occurred to me, and that's an unusual situation for me.

And for perfectionists, doing something poorly is still going to be the same as someone else just doing it.

Its better to add an adblocker if changing the browser change is too much effort now.

@Sheinicorn this exact line shows up in Equal Rites by Terry Pratchett, and honestly? I've never been so thankful for the Disco Granpa :teal_heart:

@Sheinicorn I remember a great little thread on birdsite about this last year:

TL;DR gifted children rarely get support needed to cope with real problems: how to study new material, learning unfamiliar things, etc.

@Sheinicorn Thank you thank you I really needed to hear this today ♥

@Sheinicorn "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly", sure, even in emergency life-and-death situations, I guess.
Now is the question: is it worth doing multiple things simultaneously, but poorly, or just one but to the extent of one's abilities?

@Sheinicorn And sometimes a commitment to do it halfway is the difference between doing it 100% and 0%.

When I'm procrastinating doing something, I sometimes change the task from "do the thing" to "spent 5 minutes on the thing". It relieves the pressure to complete the task, and more often than not I spent more than 5 minutes and make some progress, which is better than no progress because of procrastination.

@Sheinicorn Something is generally better than nothing. However, I'd like to also say that anything worth doing is worth doing as well as you can manage. If that means halfway to perfect, that's OK. It's much less OK to deliberately do a half-arsed job when you are capable (considering time constraints, mental state, etc) of better.

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