asking trans people "if gender isn't real, why do you want to be the other gender so bad" is like asking people "if rent shouldn't exist, why do you want rent control so badly": because we live in a society that violently enforces gender, and that makes it real. asking trans people, and only them, to pretend like gender doesn't matter, while everyone around us keeps hurting us for it, isn't fair. it's like asking tenants to not give a shit about rent while their landlord is trying to evict them.
i will have more elaborate thoughts on this at some point in the future right now it's in the middle of the night and this just occured to me
that question has been bothering me for ages because i haven't had an answer for it, or at least not one i could put into words
i haven't found an answer that's neither weak nor throws parts of the community under the bus, so if you have a good answer please share it with me
lmao this is getting so many notifs it broke the web UI, it's just stuck at 15 unread notifs
I've read all these already, several times, but every time I scroll down, it gets more 😂
@amberage thank you for this!
@amberage Clearly the answer is to stop scrolling down :P
@ada well I'd love to have working notifications again at some point 🤷♀️
@amberage I think you pretty much got it all there.
a social construct seems to be taken by some as "lies" but it is actually just a building blocks for our societies. or more like, units of analysis with which we describe our cultures.
this means a social construct is malleable, dependent on time space context culture and individuals, and that they're as real as anything else. pretty much everything is a social construct at some level, even the constants of universe.
feedback appreciated etc etc