asking trans people "if gender isn't real, why do you want to be the other gender so bad" is like asking people "if rent shouldn't exist, why do you want rent control so badly": because we live in a society that violently enforces gender, and that makes it real. asking trans people, and only them, to pretend like gender doesn't matter, while everyone around us keeps hurting us for it, isn't fair. it's like asking tenants to not give a shit about rent while their landlord is trying to evict them.
Okay, here's the more elaborate thoughts I talked about.
(repost because I found a typo, ugh)
@amberage I think you pretty much got it all there.
a social construct seems to be taken by some as "lies" but it is actually just a building blocks for our societies. or more like, units of analysis with which we describe our cultures.
this means a social construct is malleable, dependent on time space context culture and individuals, and that they're as real as anything else. pretty much everything is a social construct at some level, even the constants of universe.
Une instance se voulant accueillante pour les personnes queers, féministes et anarchistes ainsi que pour leurs sympathisant·e·s. Nous sommes principalement francophones, mais vous êtes les bienvenu·e·s quelle que soit votre langue.
A welcoming instance for queer, feminist and anarchist people as well as their sympathizers. We are mainly French-speaking people, but you are welcome whatever your language might be.