asking trans people "if gender isn't real, why do you want to be the other gender so bad" is like asking people "if rent shouldn't exist, why do you want rent control so badly": because we live in a society that violently enforces gender, and that makes it real. asking trans people, and only them, to pretend like gender doesn't matter, while everyone around us keeps hurting us for it, isn't fair. it's like asking tenants to not give a shit about rent while their landlord is trying to evict them.

i will have more elaborate thoughts on this at some point in the future right now it's in the middle of the night and this just occured to me

that question has been bothering me for ages because i haven't had an answer for it, or at least not one i could put into words

i haven't found an answer that's neither weak nor throws parts of the community under the bus, so if you have a good answer please share it with me


lmao this is getting so many notifs it broke the web UI, it's just stuck at 15 unread notifs

I've read all these already, several times, but every time I scroll down, it gets more 😂

@amberage Clearly the answer is to stop scrolling down :P

@ada well I'd love to have working notifications again at some point 🤷‍♀️

@amberage @ada use the "mark all notifications as read" button at the top (looks like a check mark) ^^

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Une instance se voulant accueillante pour les personnes queers, féministes et anarchistes ainsi que pour leurs sympathisant·e·s. Nous sommes principalement francophones, mais vous êtes les bienvenu·e·s quelle que soit votre langue.

A welcoming instance for queer, feminist and anarchist people as well as their sympathizers. We are mainly French-speaking people, but you are welcome whatever your language might be.