I have found this to be a really great relationship tool and maybe you will find it useful as well: “I have no strong opinion but can generate one if that would be helpful.”

@benhamill Another one we use around here is "I need you to narrow this down to two or three choices for me"

@benhamill I love this. It's so good for like dinner options in this household.

@bright_helpings That is precisely the situation I had used it in that inspired this post!

@benhamill I'll put that one in my library.

In return, when someone is ranting or upset about something, a useful response is:

"Do you want me to try to help you fix this?? Or do you just want a (cuddle|cuppa|sympathy|walk)?"

@benhamill @ColinTheMathmo My version of this for people who are okay with swearing is "Is this a 'fix it' or 'fuck it' conversation?"
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Eldritch Café

Une instance se voulant accueillante pour les personnes queers, féministes et anarchistes ainsi que pour leurs sympathisant·e·s. Nous sommes principalement francophones, mais vous êtes les bienvenu·e·s quelle que soit votre langue.

A welcoming instance for queer, feminist and anarchist people as well as their sympathizers. We are mainly French-speaking people, but you are welcome whatever your language might be.