The other side of "if you need to ask then you'll never know" is "if you need to be told then you'll never believe" -- i.e., a frontal assault on a heavily armored memeplex will never admit certain ideas obvious to the outgroup but incompatible with ingroup ideology's internal logic.
@enkiv2 I've always taken "if you have to ask then you'll never know" more as a pathological form of so-called 'community self defense', perhaps against the whole geeks vs. MOPs model.
Well, it is, but it's also more than that. Certain things are so deeply embedded in a framework that they can't be explained to outsiders without initiating them into the whole framework. "What's a monad?", asked by somebody with no technical or math background, is suitably answered with "if you have to ask then you'll never know"
Une instance se voulant accueillante pour les personnes queers, féministes et anarchistes ainsi que pour leurs sympathisant·e·s. Nous sommes principalement francophones, mais vous êtes les bienvenu·e·s quelle que soit votre langue.
A welcoming instance for queer, feminist and anarchist people as well as their sympathizers. We are mainly French-speaking people, but you are welcome whatever your language might be.