- I messed up.
- I had a lapse in judgement.
- My sincerest apologies.
- Yo, you right. My b.
I promise you, this is a thing that works if you actually try it.
Meanwhile my ass has been apologizing every day to this younger coworker of mine because I didn't see her waving at me and she thought I was ignoring her.
@guerrillarain my personal corollary has always been "just apologize now and have the real conversation tomorrow if you have to" because i can guarantee I'll have a more productive conversation after ruminating to myself than being immediately defensive.
@Jewbacchus I would kill for folks to use a "I need to reflect on this situation, excuse me" omg
@guerrillarain extremely same. From observation the two biggest vectors for unnecessary conflict here have been no one sleeping on it and people jumping into other people's conflicts.
@Jewbacchus @guerrillarain I've got these ones filed under #ThingsIHadToLearnPainfullyInOrderToStopBeingAToxicMan 👍
@guerrillarain ☝️ ☝️ ☝️
@guerrillarain Yeah, this generally works (though caveat, it doesn't work if people are looking for an excuse to hate you, which. . . does happen a distressing amount).
Une instance se voulant accueillante pour les personnes queers, féministes et anarchistes ainsi que pour leurs sympathisant·e·s. Nous sommes principalement francophones, mais vous êtes les bienvenu·e·s quelle que soit votre langue.
A welcoming instance for queer, feminist and anarchist people as well as their sympathizers. We are mainly French-speaking people, but you are welcome whatever your language might be.